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Post by Mephistel on Dec 30, 2010 15:37:28 GMT -5
I just made this subject because I really feel down right now...
And you know what, I hate life...it always causing pain, I hate it! All of those goods side there is to it! It all sour sweetness, it will fade one day or the other....
I'm sorry, didn't mean to bother you all with that...I just needed to talk a bit...
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Post by Jet on Dec 30, 2010 16:01:51 GMT -5
Normally I'd say to find another place, but meh. Life is weird- one time I wish I could die and get it over with, other times Im glad I didnt cut myself when I was younger (long story).
My advice- find people similiar to you. My life is a whole lot better since I joined Fantasy and Board Games Society (aka: SMURF, yes, its a pun) and Polish-Japan Society.
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Post by malice on Dec 30, 2010 16:22:03 GMT -5
I often think the future holds nothing of interest to me or at least it holds so little that to live life for those things would be self-defeating.
However at those times I see myself as a designated driver. The only person capable of steering is me, and everyone else is a slobbering drunken fool. I may not consider myself the most exceptional person for the job, but I'm the only one with my wits about me. Hopefully I can keep us alive long enough to get home.
You see it's not that I want the job or that I am the best for it, but that no one else will do it and it must be done. That's your life. When you started you were a baby in the backseat with your parents handling everything. Now you're behind the wheel, and you can guarantee that anyone else you'd give the job to will f*** it up. You can bail but then you're responsible for the ruin of several blabbering morons who can't be trusted with their own well being.
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Post by Mephistel on Dec 30, 2010 16:42:43 GMT -5
I guess youre right...but yet again...life have decided to take away someone that was precious to me... I'm tired of it...she ain't gone yet...but still...she don't have long left...
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Post by Dullahan on Dec 30, 2010 16:46:16 GMT -5
I just made this subject because I really feel down right now... And you know what, I hate life...it always causing pain, I hate it! All of those goods side there is to it! It all sour sweetness, it will fade one day or the other.... I'm sorry, didn't mean to bother you all with that...I just needed to talk a bit... We all get down sometimes. It happens. Happened a lot to me recently. That changed when I figured something out. Sometimes, life really sucks. No doubt about it. But here's the thing, it can be great to. Sure, in the end it goes away, but so what? There's not much you can do about that. Instead, find something you enjoy, something to love, or someone, hang on, and enjoy the ride. That way, when the ride ends, you've got something happy to remember. At the end of the day, life can bring you down. And you have a choice in that. Let it, or not? Instead of focusing on the negative, find the positive. It's there, all you have to do is find it.
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Post by Dullahan on Dec 30, 2010 16:48:30 GMT -5
I guess youre right...but yet again...life have decided to take away someone that was precious to me... I'm tired of it...she ain't gone yet...but still...she don't have long left... Ouch, I'm sorry to hear that. I really am. Don't have much more to offer than that, I'm afraid....
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Post by Mephistel on Dec 30, 2010 16:56:37 GMT -5
Thank... I need to hold on...I'll try...
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Post by WildKnight on Dec 30, 2010 16:58:30 GMT -5
I'm sorry to hear that you're losing someone, but the fact is that this is all a part of life. We've all lost loved ones, and I find it helpful to remember that nothing I go through hasn't been survived by generations and generations of humans before me. No suffering is unique.
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Post by skyeraptor59 on Dec 30, 2010 17:01:16 GMT -5
I guess youre right...but yet again...life have decided to take away someone that was precious to me... I'm tired of it...she ain't gone yet...but still...she don't have long left... I'm sorry. Losing someone...it's not fun, and that's a gross understatement. My sister stills keeps track of how many years, months, days it's been since my grandpa died. I still have regrets that I didn't get to talk to him as much as I did. Yeah, it's gonna feel like someone ripped your heart out and thrashed it, and it won't ever be the same. But the point is, in time you can bear it. We humans are adaptable creatures. If something is in our lives that we don't want but can't get rid of, we learn to work around, or at times with, it. And would the person want you to end it? I doubt it. Grieve for as long as you need to, then live the life you can, honoring her memory. And spend time with the person, as much as possible, so you don't regret it later. Again, I'm really sorry.
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Post by Mephistel on Dec 30, 2010 17:47:17 GMT -5
Thank for the advice...but tonight might be her last...since i'm not really talking about a person...it probably seems stupid to be that depressed...she was with us for 13 years now...we've always took good care of her...I don't get it! ........
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Post by Ushima911 on Dec 30, 2010 17:48:23 GMT -5
A life's a life, no matter how ya look at it.
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Post by WildKnight on Dec 30, 2010 17:50:47 GMT -5
A life's a life, no matter how ya look at it. Untrue (I don't get weepy when a cow, a flea, or a mosquito dies, sorry), but in this instance, I'm guessing we're talking about a pet. Pets become as close as family, and that loss can be profound.
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Post by Ushima911 on Dec 30, 2010 18:26:18 GMT -5
that's what i was meaning for anyways...aheh heh..
Was too busy watching anime to complete my thought..ahem:
A life's a life no matter how you look at it. There's life you dont generally care for *as mentioned by WK with the crow/flea example) and there are the lives you DO care for. 13 years is...well..a long time to be with someone, even if it is a pet. doesn't matter if that someone is a dog, cat, snake etc. that pets/person's life is going to grow on you. A life is a life, you care for that person/pet's life so it doesn't matter if it's "just a pet." Your feelings are not in the wrong just because the life you care for isn't human. So, saying things like "it probably seems stupid to be that depressed." is in fact incorrect. Having these feelings is normal. And I'm sorry you're feeling this pain.
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Post by Mephistel on Dec 30, 2010 18:34:23 GMT -5
i don't really have anything to say...thank to you guys...i'm feelings a little better, knowing i'm not wrong to feel that pain and sadness for my dog... Maybe she will live, maybeshe will not...i don't know..it will depends on the doctor diagnostic, but i'm still sad just at the tough that I might mostly lose her...it's hard on me, really hard...i'm crying like hell...
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Post by skyeraptor59 on Dec 30, 2010 19:06:02 GMT -5
Cry. It's part of the process. And as Ushima and WK said, it's alright to have these feelings for a dog. I'm starting to get them for my 15 year-old dog. Remember the awesome times you and your dog had together. Cling to those thoughts, nothing negative, as Nightmare said earlier. Those good memories can remind you that your dog has had a full life with you.
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