Post by Mister Sinister on May 24, 2009 22:20:53 GMT -5
I relocated to PA from my home in OH for business. These guys asked me to come, and so I did. After they figured I was there to stay, a few of them hazed me like crazy and never let up. To the disdain of the others bandmates, we didn't get along. I constantly had to remind them that I wasn't Jason Newsted. ^^
Two of them had this idea that going out after shows and smashing car/shop windows with beer bottles (and other unspeakable acts) was a good time. They had bad attitudes, were bad for business, and it didn't settle well with me. I remain in contact with two of them, but very loosely. It was just a culture shock for me, because I'm a good natured guy. It seemed, from my experience, that alot of the people from Pittsburgh inner city and buroughs were just miserable and ill-tempered. Those particular two guys came from tough backgrounds and just were never happy with anything. I got sick of being a whipping boy. It's not that I couldn't take it - I just decided I didn't want to anymore.
Post by WildKnight on May 24, 2009 22:25:42 GMT -5
Totally makes sense. You probably don't want to hit it big with guys you can't stand (or even get to a point where you're making living money), and have to rely on them for your ability to pay your bills.
I don't know what part of Ohio you're from originally, but Pittsburgh is a lot like Detroit... a dying industrial town. And yeah... we come up with a lot of anger. Too many parents in these kinds of places are bitter about how their lives turned out (especially if they worked in the local industry and lost that job), and raise their kids without hope.
It doesn't excuse the behavior, but maybe it explains it a little. I went through my bad kid/vandal/criminal delinquent phase... I was 15, but hey, not everybody is as advanced as me.
Post by Mister Sinister on May 24, 2009 22:40:55 GMT -5
LOL, thanks for checking it out guys. The music was something I was always proud of. They were good performers.
For the record, I'm from Tipp City, OH. About 30 minutes from Dayton. It's a tiny, farm/old canal town with a mostly white population. Probably 8 miles from end to end. We're actually an "Exempted Village," WTF that means... ;D
I understand about the angst. I really do. It just wasn't good for us to be around each other.
Fortunately and unfortunately, they replaced me. I guy I knew, that was friends with the drummer, started coming to practices to watch what I was doing and take in the music. He was groomed to replace me, but it's not like I didn't know about it. I was so worn out by then I was hardly crushed.
At least I can say with some confidence he can't touch my skill...but he does have every other part of his life in order, whereas I do not. ^^
I'm already with another project. It's a brutal deathmetal outfit though - quite a stretch from CtL.
I really, really appreciate the interest though. Makes it feel like it might have been all worthwhile after all.
Post by Mister Sinister on May 24, 2009 23:33:21 GMT -5
Oh, believe me, I've dealt with the prospect of 'losing' my appearance (at least, a little). If I ever start going bald, I'm shaving my entire head. I have no problem with that. You're right, though. You really are.
Haha, thanks. I try to respect people as much as possible, but I'm no pushover either. I got chosen to be in that band because I attempted to be a professional. I learned a thing or two about the business, and diplomacy, and life while I was involved. I definitely learned that there are bigger issues in the world than the things people waste so much time being sore about. I really wish everybody were kinder, you know?
They could put those efforts and emotions towards music, for example (although there are other mediums), in order to express themselves or stand up for what they believe in. Of course, like most people, I see the world as I would like it to be, and not necessarily as it really is...